What to Expect
What is Psychodynamic Counselling?
Psychodynamic counselling has at its heart an interest in how we form patterns of relating and feeling, from our very earliest experiences onwards. These unconscious patterns shape and mould us in a way that is individual to each person, affecting how we relate to other people and the world, and influencing coping strategies. But, as they may remain out of awareness, they can result in unhelpful patterns of repeating behaviour, relationship and emotional problems, or difficulty grieving losses - and this can be very difficult to unpick alone.
The counselling space - whether in-person or online - is secure, confidential and boundaried. Within it, together we can explore not only the current issues that may be causing you pain or overwhelming you, but also piece together how your feelings, needs and wants in the present may be linked to these deeper underlying patterns.
I work with respect, curiosity and empathy, as well as gentle challenge, to help you be curious about yourself and gain insight. Whatever you bring, whether you think it important or not, will be seen, heard and valued - and for this reason you will tend to lead our sessions, with anything you wish to talk about. Counselling is unlike any other relationship and allows space for you to really explore and reflect, without the usual societal pressures or demands. Over time, it can help improve your understanding of yourself, integrate your experiences and feelings and empower you to build resilience, creating lasting self-awareness and change.
First Steps
Making the decision to begin counselling can bring up many emotions and it’s important that you feel a good fit with your counsellor, in order for you to be open to working through what may be difficult topics. Our relationship will also reflect some of the underlying, unconscious processes through which you relate to others - and it is through the relationship that some of the deepest therapeutic work can happen.
If you’re interested in beginning counselling, we would typically have a few initial meetings - either in person or online, depending on how you would prefer to access our sessions. This allows an opportunity to explore what’s brought you to counselling now, hear your story and get a sense of whether a psychodynamic approach and my style feel right for you. I can also offer a brief introductory chat on the phone first, if you prefer.
If we do decide to work together we would then arrange to meet once a week for 50 minutes, at the same time each week, on an open-ended basis. My standard fee is £60 per session, but I am able to offer some limited lower-cost slots.
Please contact me via the button below or at info@frandawelane.co.uk if you would like more information, or to book a call or initial session.